Plausible Deniability
“Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.”
Oscar Wilde
Can men and women really just be friends? There is strong support for both sides of the argument and the conclusion is irritatingly inconclusive.
Have you ever done the torturous dance of ‘are we friends?’ The friendship game is a series of plausibly deniable moments. I am sitting next to you because that’s where I happened to sit down. I am seeing a movie with you because we both want to see that movie. I am taking care of you because you’re sick and need some TLC. Don’t read into it … we’re just friends.
What you mean is “we’re friends cause I think maybe you might want more but I’m not totally sure yet so I’ll play the friendship game until I get a definitive signal one way or the other…”
Being near but not with someone is intoxicating. You’re addicted to their company. You spend the whole time wanting, hiding, caught up in the secret thrill of their nearness and each stolen touch.
Don’t get me wrong. Friendship between men and women happens all the time. I have heaps of friends that will never be anything more for a number of reasons.
I’m saying that the minute you find yourself in a situation like the above, it’s game over for you buddy. If you find yourself asking the question of whether men and women can really just be friends, for you the answer is no.
Muchness 