Living each day much muchier
Sometimes being obstinate in our behavioural patterns and beliefs is a problem and it’s good to have the flexibility to be unphased when proven wrong. We mistakenly assume our identity is based on the compilation of beliefs we’ve accepted or chosen and protect ourselves when threatened. The good news is though (and anyone who has ever undergone a transformation of belief will attest) who you are is something beyond all that … thoughts and feelings are just white noise that need to be acknowledged, but not clung to like life and death no matter how demanding they seem. What you think and feel is bound to a moment in time and no matter how important it seems right now, it may end up being irrelevant to how you think and feel tomorrow.
On the other hand, a concept from Conversations With God has also stuck with me over time, where Neale states that we have every power to determine and to acheive whoever we desire to be. The reason why we fail so miserably is because we keep changing our minds from one day to the next. One day I visualise myself as being a healthy person and naturally I am content to eat only good food and to go for that run. The next day, something happens that stirs up the white noise of thoughts and feelings and suddenly I’m thinking ‘who am I kidding? I’m a chocolate addict!’ … and that’s when rustle and snap of cadbury occurs.
These two concepts complement, not contradict each other. Never mistake your current thoughts and feelings for who you really are. That way, you’re not bound to or by them if circumstances call for you to change. Thoughts and feelings should be tools you use to appreciate and engage with the world, not a master controlling you in ways that cause disappointment, conflict and uncertainty.
So who is really in the driver’s seat of your life? You or the white noise?