You must constantly ask yourself these questions:
Who am I around? What are they doing to me?
What have they got me reading? What have they
got me saying? Where do they have me going?
What do they have me thinking? And most important,
what do they have me becoming? Then ask
yourself the big question: Is that okay?
Jim Rohn
Other people have a greater influence on us than we probably realise. We can claim that we don’t care what others think. That might even be true for the most part, but social patterning is instinctive. We are social animals. We naturally, gradually morph our speech patterns, behaviours and general view to resemble the people around us.
People can spur you on to be a better person, to experience more of life or they can pull you down to have lower expectations. It’s all well and good to imagine yourself as an individual in control of your own destiny, but the people you surround yourself will determine what feels normal and natural to you.
I know lots of people but the ones I value the most – the ones I call friends – I haven’t just fallen in with. I actually hand picked them for a reason. I see in them a sense of integrity, dignity, a flair for life and a willingness to grow into something great. I believe in them and look out for them to the best of my ability. I trust what they reflect back to me and that they’re looking out for me too.
If I ask myself that big question ‘is that okay?’, the answer is ‘yes’.
Can you say the same?