Living each day much muchier
Ask yourself: If I know something to be true, am I
prepared to follow it, even though it is contrary to what
I want or to what I have previously held to be true? Will I
follow it if it means being laughed at, if it means
personal financial loss, or some kind of hardship?
I’m a big fan of saying ‘yes’ to life. Life experiences should be enjoyed on their own merit, not because they get us to a goal. People should be valued and appreciated for their differences. Opinions and beliefs do not need to fit into a particular worldview. Say yes to something on its own terms.
There is another end to the spectrum though. There comes a time when you need to cut things out of your life.
Sometimes situations or people are not good for you. They’re not inherently bad. They could be genuinely nice people or a genuinely good job or a neighbourhood just minding its own business. But, for a particular reason, it’s not good for you.
I actually struggle a lot with this. I want things to be black and white where you cease a relationship because they’re a bad person who did bad things. You quit a job because you were bullied, undervalued or got a better offer. I struggle with relative decision-making, both my own and other people’s. I struggled when someone ended a friendship because my influence was unhealthy. Yet now, I’m faced with the exact same decision. My world keeps gets annoyingly icky and small because I leave doors open that should have been closed a long time ago. Doors that should have stayed closed. It’s too hard to move on properly in life when your past keeps showing up. It’s a bit like finding last winter’s tissues still in your coat pocket … it’s just wrong.
Social networks like Facebook contribute a lot to this. Designed to bring people together and keep them in touch, it can end up being a big tissue collection and a cause for more trouble than it’s worth.
I need to have the courage to make relative decisions… not because anyone did anything wrong, but because it’s right for me.