Living each day much muchier
There’s a fine line between hope and expectation. So fine, in fact, that they seem like the same thing.
Hope and expectation are tied together with love and hate. They’re at war when you struggle to believe what you ache for is possible. Then sometimes — and if you’re not careful — they fall in love under romantic circumstances and run away together, leaving reality far, far behind.
Hope is the heart’s desire for something magnificent. It’s your dream. If the world was perfect, you’d get what you hope for (maybe even deserve) and you’d be happy.
Life rarely pans out that way. So, you manage your expectations.
Expectations are the subjective reality you act on. Life might have a poor track record of realising your hopes, but it’s pretty good at meeting your expectations.
Set expectation too low and you’re the active hand in creating your own sadness. Set it too high and people’s imperfection will disappoint you.
I’ve been managing some pretty low expectations lately. It’s dragging my heart down and it has to stop. The heart sickens without hope. After all, where am I going and why am I here if not for the hope of creating the beautiful life of my imagination?
Except … you’ve gotta have realistic expectations to stay grounded and sane.
Maybe the only way to walk this fine line is to be honest about what you hope for. Own it. Explore it.
Don’t wait for it to fall from the stars and into your lap. Reach for it.
Never tell yourself it won’t happen or you don’t deserve it. Make it real by surrounding yourself with it in every way possible or as near as you can manage.
Try. Put yourself squarely in the path of your hope.
Resist the temptation to attach hope to anyone but yourself. The hardest thing is to hold on to hope, but set people free. They will always come as they are and go as they please. The integrity of your heart lies in keeping steadfast to what matters to you.
How to walk the fine line between hope and expectation?
Hold on to hope. Let expectation go.
“Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.”
“Expect everything so that nothing comes unexpected.”
Norton Juster – The Phantom Tollbooth